What I've learned from our 2 weeks of no dad.

Mr. Inc comes home tomorrow after being in Hawaii for 2 weeks. I'm not bitter. Really!  The two weeks has reminded me what it's like to handle this parenting gig on my own. I used to do it all the time.  I had the routine down pretty well, but I've been spoiled by actually having my husband home every day for the last year and a half. So here's what I've learned or been reminded of in the last two weeks.

1. The "Go ask your dad" card is very useful and under appreciated.  A couple of times I started to say, "That's your dad's department..."  then realized NOPE. That's my issue this week. Yeah.

2. Things will break when the family fixer person is gone. The computer mouse stopped working. Light bulbs burned out. I swear I was just waiting  for a flat tire or dead battery.

3.BBE does NOT like his routine to be completely uprooted. Daddy being gone turns BBE into BAT-man (Below Average Toddler).

4.It took about a week to get into a new groove with Mr. Inc gone. I'm not sure if I like that it only took a week or not. On one hand, if he had to be gone longer (a reasonable possibility with the military), it's good that we can be okay and do our thing without him. On the other hand, I'm much too quick to take everything over. It's that whole Eve Complex coming out.

5.Along the lines of number 4, I was reminded that I'm just NOT one of those women that needs her husband around all the time. Yes, the first week I was kind of pathetic, calling people, posting on facebook, blah blah blah.  By the second week, I was good. We'd talk on the phone for a little while and that was that. I like having my person around, but I don't need him around if that makes sense.

6. I probably missed him more tonight than any other time. Why?  **WARNING: EPIC HOMEMAKER FAILURE**  I'd somehow run completely out of toilet paper. Not a square to spare.  There was no sending Mr Inc to the store. I should say there was no ME going to the store and leaving the kids at home with Mr. Inc while I also stopped by McDonald's for a mocha frappe. No, I piled the kids in the van and  made the one mile drive to the store. My only redemption is that I realized this at 8pm, not 10pm.


Thankfully, Mr. Inc will be home tomorrow morning and all will be right in our world again. BBE will be happy. I can pass things off to my partner in crime instead of doing everything solo. Things will stop breaking. And we won't run out of toilet paper! Win!


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